The Sisterhood Reality TV: Preachers’ Wives Behind the Scene

The Sisterhood Reality TV: Preachers’ Wives Behind the Scene

I just reviewed the trailer for the upcoming show called, “The Sisterhood.”  It is a Reality Show about the lives of Preachers’ Wives. Although I am not a die hard reality show ”groupy,’ I must admit that while washing dishes, I have tuned into a few shows and have found some of them entertaining.

I received a personal invite from one of the male pastor’s to review the trailer.  After reviewing the trailer I wrote back and told him that I was a bit fearful, but that I was intrigued and would be tuning in Jan 1, 2013 on TLC Network @9PM.

These type of shows, like anything else, can have some advantages as well as some disadvantages. There is no doubt in my mind that the backlash will soon begin from the Christian community, especially as the debut date draws near. This is why I said I was a bit fearful.  If you don’t know anything about this community of believers, it is that we can be very critical and very judgmental AND have a loud voice in expressing our opinions. And of course to the unbeliever, again it shows us as divisive.

A Sneak Peek

It looks as if the main theme behind the show is to let us view what is going on behind the ‘curtain.’ We are getting a peek into the intimate lives of these preachers’ wives: their habits, their hangups, their responsibilities, their past, their feelings, their frustrations and their joys.

The trailer clearly points out that preachers’ wives can run from being very conservative to being very radical.  We see a clip where one of the wives is getting a tattoo. An argument breaks out between a two of them and there is an expression that “It is so hard to be a preacher’s wife.” Clearly these five women want us to see things from their perspective and for that I reason I will be tuning in.


I know 20 something years ago we started a weekly women’s ministry. One of the things we found was when a woman finds out she is not alone in dealing with some issues, it aids in healing and aids in coping.  People would open up about their lives and would share what they did to get past some things.  This was so beneficial.  Knowing that you are not the only one, can liberate people and give hope.

Perhaps this show will do the same, but on a larger scale. Perhaps the show can be a blessing especially to other first ladies and to the greater body perhaps we can pray more for our first ladies and demonstrate our appreciation for their ministry as we may begin to understand the pressures they may be under.


As a Toastmaster, I have to ask the question, who is the REAL ‘targeted’ audience?  If it is regular congregational members, will they be edified by the ‘peek’ behind the curtain? If the target audience is ‘other pastor’s wives,’ will they  be liberated and healed?   If the target audience is for the general public, will week after week be enough to keep everybody tuned in or will the network cause the five preacher wives to compromise standards for ratings? hmmm….  just some thoughts.

Could we be giving the world another opportunity to mock and laugh at the church? hmm… Will we be contributing to the world’s view of the church not looking any different from them? hmmm….  Only time will tell. Either way, I have learned to ‘Eat the meat and throw away the bones’ so we will see.

I will be conversing about the show on both my Facebook and my Twitter page so stay tuned.

Who to Vote for: Obama or Romney

Who to Vote for: Obama or Romney.

With the Obama/Romney election quickly approaching, talk and radio shows have been flooded with Christian who are at an impasse on who to vote for Obama or Romney. It seems that they are convinced that if they vote for either candidate it would cost them Heaven.

Some have elected not to vote this election for fear of judgement.  I ask that you read this article and perhaps an earlier article entitled, “To Vote or Not To Vote,” before you elect to stay home this election year.

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I must admit that both candidates have a dark shadow of concern  hovering over them.

It’s very difficult for Christians to ignore or even minimize the fact that Obama supports the homosexual agenda, gay marriage and abortion with the woman’s right to choose.

And it is equally difficult for Christians to embrace Romney’s Mormon faith because of the cultish similarities that even appear to be blasphemous.

We must however, vote for the person that, we believe, will best represent the stability of America.  The position one has on hot topic social issues can not be the main basis of our vote for or against.

In addition, one’s choice of faith walk  should not be the main basis of our vote for or against.

For those of you who know me, allow me to come clean and transparent.  I do not know if I would be writing the same type of blog if one of the candidates were an atheist or Satanist. It’s comforting for me to know that both contenders believe in God from which they derive their personal values even when it seems they may not practice them as they should.

That being said, I encourage you to vote this election in spite of the dark shadows.

Pray for guidance from the Lord and then vote your conscience.


Lastly, I would like to leave you with four considerations:

  1. In our best relationships whether it is with our spouse, our children, our parents, our friends or even our pastors, we are NOT going to agree with each others stance 100% of the time on every issue.
  2. We need to know that God is in control.  He already knows who will be sitting in the White House come 2013.
  3. Whoever gets in the White House, the Bible mandates that we pray for our leaders (those who are in authority).
  4. Our eternity is secured in us accepting Jesus as our Savior.

Don’t be pressured by others in believing that if you vote for Obama over Romney or Romney over Obama,  that  you are jeopardizing where you will spend eternity.  This is NOT a life altering decision, you will NOT ‘bust’ hell wide open.

Pray again for guidance during this election. Remember this is a private decision.  Do not let others dictate to you who you are suppose to vote for.

  • Just because you are democrat does NOT mean you have to vote democratic.
  • Just because you are republican does NOT mean you have to vote republican.

God may speak to you about voting outside of your party affiliation.  Beware of disclosing your voting decision  with family, friends, etc. as it may lead to arguments.  It may be a good idea to just remain silent in keeping your decision a ‘private’ affair between you and the Lord..

 In spite of your reservation with the two candidates, are you still voting and encouraging others to do likewise?








Bishop Eddie Long’s Wife Returns and Speaks Out


STAY or GO? – STAY! At a recent meeting with the women’s ministry at New Birth Missionary Baptist Church, Vanessa Long spoke about her personal struggles during husband Eddie Long’s sexual misconduct allegations in 2010.  We could tell she wrestled with the decision with whether to stay or to go as she announced that she was filing for a divorce, then rescinded, then filed again.  And now she is back again and revealed an intimate part of her life with the women at New Birth.

HURTING, ANGRY, SHAME, EMBARRASSED! She stated that last year she was in a storm and she got off the ship.  She stood before the women bare, saying “As much as I love my husband, my family, my New Birth Family,  I could not take another minute PRETENDING to be OKAY.” This spoke to the pain she felt.  The infamous MASK church folk usually wear was off.

AIRING DIRTY LAUNDRY. I must say that I respect Bishop Long and the leadership of New Birth who gave her the platform to share what many churches have come to term “AIRING THEIR DIRTY LAUNDRY” instead of hiding them like most churches do.  I believe it speaks to humility and a greater concern for the healing, restoring and reconciliation process.

HEALING TAKES TIME. As I write this post, I am happy for Vanessa, Bishop Long and the New Birth family. However, counselors, both secular and Christian, would agree that before Vanessa can help minister to others, she will need totally healing.  I would suspect that that wound is still open and susceptible to a great number of triggers reminding her of those painful events.

NO APOLOGIES. NO FAILURE.Vanessa tells the women of New Birth that it was also extremely difficult to return because she felt like she failed the very people who needed  her to be their strength because, they too, were in the storm and they elected to stay.  To that I say, “WHAT?#! But they were NOT the wife.” That’s not reasonable. How could you give out strength you did not possess yourself? “How could you minister strength to others when you needed ministering to?

ENTITLED.Vanessa was entitled to do what she needed to do for the sake of her sanity. And for that, she owes no one an apology.  Eddie was her husband.  When you get married you become ONE. She needed to get away to preserve herself for how ever long she needed.

THE SPIRIT WORKS! I am happy that Vanessa allowed the Spirit to give her the strength to return, pulling up the ‘LOVE RESERVES’ to make a bold move in order to extend forgiveness and to reconcile.However, it must be said that before she can minister to others, she needs to be ministered to. Weighing in on her statements it is clear that her healing will be a work in progress.

LEARN FROM OTHERS. Lastly, I pray that all pastors truly realize that ‘betrayal’ cuts deep and is extremely painful for SIN extends and has a long reach as it impacts everybody attached to you or who has things in common with you.  As pastors, I pray we learn from the painful experiences and mistakes of others lest we too, fall prey to the traps of the enemy and risk losing it all.

May God Bless the Long & New Birth Family

What are your thoughts on the video clip? What sayeth you?

To Vote or Not Vote – Obama/Romney Dilemma


Who do you vote for when neither candidate has a spotless record . . . .

  • The lesser of two evils
  • You do a coin toss and pray for the best
  • You don’t vote
  • You vote your conscience

THY KINGDOM COME. As a result of King Solomon’s sin, upon his death, his kingdom was divided into two parts. The Kingdom of Judah led by his son, Rehoboam and the kingdom of Israel led by his servant Jeroboam.  As you read Ist & 2nd Kings you will discover that collectively Judah and Israel had 40 kings – only eight kings did what was right in God’s eyes and not one single king of Israel did right.

Some were just downright wicked and evil – consumed with their kingly power; some were prone to compromise; while others were tolerant, some gave into peer pressure, while others towed the line on both sides. Sound familiar?

READY TO RECEIVE US BACK TO HIM. One thing that seems to be consistent within the scripture is that when the nation went through their struggle and cried out to God for help He heard their prayer and redeemed them even when they  repeatedly offended Him and were disobedient.

OUR DUTY TO VOTE. That being said, I encourage you to still vote your conscience at the polls this November as it really is our duty as citizens of these United States.  Sure we may have something against both candidates.  We might not like what either stands for on certain issues and that’s okay.  The fact is there has only been one perfect Being without sin and that is Jesus and He’s not running for office.

OBAMA. We may like President Obama’s overall leadership and feel that he connects with the ‘average’ man, but hate his stand on the controversial issues such as same sex marriage or pro-life.

ROMNEY. We may like Candidate Mitt Romney’s business savvy, and moral conviction, but are concerned whether he can relate to the ‘average’ man along with questioning the impact of his Mormon belief system on running the affairs of our country.

YOU DON’T SAY. The truth is just look around, there are things we like about each other and other things we do not like.  There are things people like about what we say as pastors, yet there are things they do not like.  It concerns me when we are thinking about not attending the polls because we have found fault with both candidates.  I fear we are ‘throwing the baby out with the bath water.’

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VOTE YOUR CONSCIENCE. I have a friend who has a saying, “Eat the meat and throw away the bones.”  My recommendation is for you to vote your conscience and let God do the rest. You still can take a stance and be an activist for those principles you believe in regardless of who will be in office. I believe this is our Christian duty as citizens and as believers.

Lastly, we all need to come to terms with the fact that either President Obama will remain in the office or Mitt Romney will move into the office.