Is There Justified Adultery?
Okay, I’ve gotta vent. Any other time I am agreeing with my grandpa, Pat Robertson, but today I’m feeling a certain type of way. It seems as though he’s excusing CIA director, General David Petraeus adultery with mistress and biographer, Paula Broadwell.
- He was off in a foreign land and was lonely
- She’s a hot mamma and was throwing herself at him
- She is an extremely good looking woman
- She is a marathon runner so she is out running with him
- She is writing his biography
I mean, c’mon he is a man.
This is something my husband can say to his barber shop buddies, certainly out of ear shot of me lest there be hell to pay! Another thing is the world seems to minimize the effects of betrayal calling it a soft word like ‘an affair’ but the Bible refers to it as “Adultery.” Thou shall NOT commit Adultery.
Pat Robertson stated that there seemed to be some ‘propinquity‘ going on.
Propinquity – factors leading to interpersonal attraction. It refers to the physical or psychological proximity between people. In other words, they seemed to have a lot in common: lonely, runners, working on the biography together. hmmmm….
Rainer’s comments to the point, NOT excusing behavior.
Thomas Rainer, President of Lifeway Christian Resources wrote an excellent post entitled, “Adultery and Leadership.”. In my opinion, Rainer does a great job in “Slam – Dunkin” society’s attempt to normalize adultery in order to get us to buy into the fact that everybody’s doing It. And it’s only a matter of time before you will be apart of the ranks.
I’ve highlight a few of his comments bearing to be repeated.
- Rainer addresses the myth that adultery is a private matter. He indicates that adultery is NOT a private matter. A lot of people get hurt in the wake of exposed adultery.
- Rainer addresses the myth that It’s Endemic to All Great Leaders. WHAT?#&! I love this paragraph as Rainer helps us to not get things twisted about this topic. It is NOT Endemic of Great Leaders. He further states what Adultery is NOT. For example, it’s NOT a sign of strength, but a sign of weakness.
- Lastly, Rainer deals with the myth that It’s a Matter of Triumph. He addresses the subject head-on. It’s not a matter of conquest, but simply put, it’s a matter of ‘FAILED’ trust. He emphasizes that it really is a BIG deal because FAILED Trust is FAILED leadership.
In summary, all I have to say is that it is one thing for the world to glorify adultery as a matter of triumph or personal conquest; it’s a whole other thing for representatives of the church to do it ‘publicly’ in a form of minimizing its effects. I have to admit, Pat Robertson’s comments made me second guess his fidelity.
Regarding Pat Robertson’s one word description, “Propinquity’ I have this to say, perhaps we all need to purchase Andy Stanley’s video series on “Guardrails.”
Do you believe that even the church normalizes adultery?