Why Pastors Cheat
I recently read an article entitled, “Men: Protect These 7 Women by Watching Yourself,” written by Joe McKeever. I must say it was a great article. Please take a look at the article. McKeever does an excellent job citing examples.
The article was written to men of the church warning them not to ignore direct and subtle signs. He emphasized for pastors to put up certain boundaries and safeguards to protect not only themselves, but also the women.
The article addresses seven types of women that men pastors need to be aware of. The author is trying to offer some sound advice so that pastors will go into this thing with both eyes open to the subtle tricks and traps of the enemy. Take a look at the list:
Watch out for . . .
- The other woman who wants to be your wife – (this is the woman who is ‘unhappily’ married; she’s your biggest fan and you are everything she wants in a man)
- The other woman who wants to be your mother – (this is the woman who smothers you with attention, cooks and buys you stuff)
- The other woman who wants to be your lover (Proverbs 5:1-5 speaks of this woman. This woman is especially dangerous if the relationship between you and your wife have grown stale; she wants you and will make sure you know it; she will convince you, “no strings attached.”)
- The other woman who wants to be your best friend (This woman wants you to confide in her and wants you to confide in her.)
- The other woman you want (This woman seems to be everything you want in a woman; in her presence you feel a certain type of way, BUT you’re married…)
- The other woman who doesn’t know what she wants (This woman is the mixed up and needy woman. She is always coming to your office. She may not be anything to look at but the danger is you can become emotionally drawn to her.)
- The other woman you work most closely with in ministry (You frequently meet with this woman to discuss ministry matters. It’s the constant meetings ‘alone’ that shouts, ‘danger!’)
Many pastors have paid the ultimate price for sexual sins.
It is a pride issue when pastors believe they have so much anointing on them that they do not have to put up appropriate boundaries. It’s like they believe they have so much Holy Ghost on them that it gives them ‘Superhuman’ strength like that given to Superman. The problem is that the allurement of sexual temptation is a pastor’s “kryptonite.”
Many have fallen. Think about it, even though King Solomon was the wisest man of all; it was the allurement of sex which brought about the division of his kingdom. Pastors have destroyed their families, marriage ended and have lost their churches.
The price and stakes are just too high to make such a gamble on a game that Satan plays all too well.
McKeever also points out in his article, the women that often time trips up pastors is the ‘everyday’ church woman meaning you can’t pick her out of a crowd.
She blends in. In fact, McKeever cites that she doesn’t haven’t look like Jezebel, adorned with makeup and designer outfits.
I always wondered about this how men in general would end up having affairs and their mistresses have nothin’ on their wives in terms of physical attractiveness. Sometimes the wives are ‘Bay Watch Babes’ and the mistresses are ‘Bay Watch Beasts.‘
I believe it was Mike Murdock who once said that a mistress has learned to talk to the ‘king’ in a man while the wife insist on speaking to the ‘fool’ in a man. That is why the mistress can look like the back end of a baboon and he finds himself drawn to her.
The stakes are just too high.
Why take the chance in losing it all: family, spouse, church and reputation? Billy Graham, the Christian Voice of America had a spotless career of scandal because he put up certain safeguards and boundaries.
These days as we hear about preacher after preacher falling from grace, it is imperative that one be intentional in honoring God, one’s spouse, family and church.